Sex Education and Sex

Class this week was very interesting. We talked about some very important and kind of uncomfortable things that need to be addressed no matter what. Those things were to explain sex education to kids and sex. Even though it was pretty uncomfortable I was able to understand a lot more about these topics.

Teaching your kids about sex education is never really that fun, but we all know it is pretty necessary. So how do we know when to tell your kids about it. It all depends on your child’s age. At different stages of life your child needs so be more educated in sexual interactions. At most schools they will introduce some parts of sex education, but not all of it. Is it safe to completely trust the school system to teach kids about sex education? For me the answer is no. who ever is teaching could have different opinions on certain subjects like sex. We live in a world right now that is ok with people having sex. If that teacher believes that and you don’t, do you really want them teaching your kid that sex is ok. Even with that we want to let our kids know that sex is ok. We need to tell them that it’s a way for a husband and wife to come closer as a couple. For members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we believe that we should only have sex when we are married. It is important for them to teach their kids in the ways of the church. If you are curious about these ways here is a link to the church’s views on the topic https://www.lds.org/manual/a-parents-guide?lang=eng.

The next thing we talked about was the boundaries in marriage. As a couple together, you need to express the boundaries you want to have, and you need to stay in those bounds. Breaking those boundaries can cause some trouble to form within the marriage. You also need to make sure that you are very clear what those bounds are so your spouse if fully aware of your boundaries. You don’t just need to make physical bounds, you need to make emotional bounds as well. That includes with your spouse and your friends. Your spouse should always come first before your friends.

This next part of this blog post might be uncomfortable for some people so read at your own risk.

When a man and a woman have decided to have sex, it’s usually a big step in a relationship. Women usually won’t have sex until they feel close with their spouse. There has to be that mental and emotional connection with them. It’s a little different for men, they want to have sex to get close to their spouse. As you can see this might create some problems in the relationship. As a couple they need to understand that sex is not the most important part of their relationship. There are three things that a couple must do together. The first one is actually KNOW each other, not just in the bedroom, but outside as well. The second is communicate. You need to be able to tell your spouse exactly what you want to happen. That leads into our third one, which is being open. You need to be able to be open with your spouse about everything.

After talking about that in class we started talking about sex itself. The first thing we mentioned was that the most important sex organ is the brain. Without your brain nothing can happen. One of my classmates explained the differences between men and women having sex perfectly. She said “for men it’s like lighting one candle and they are fully engaged. For women, it’d like lighting 200 candles, you have to light every single one in order for them to be fully engaged. In easy terms, women are slow to respond and be engaged. Men however are very fast. Another difference between men and women are women can last a lot longer than men can. After men orgasm, they need that recovery time because it can often be very painful, making it hard to continue. Often times women are still very turned on and are wanting to keep on going. Since the man is worn out he usually falls back asleep and the women feels bad because her man literally just went to sleep. Going into marriage it is appropriate to talk to your future spouse about the things that can happen about the first time they have sex. Both need to understand and accept what might happen during sex.